Welcome to the last post in the season of advent, or as I am going to call it the gathering.

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You have gathered Hope, Peace, and Joy, if you want to go back and read them that’s great, but don’t put pressure on yourself to catch up, just start here, gathering what you can, you will end up with more than enough to work with and probably more than any previous year.

and this week you gather … Love

You would know this from the title of the episode, although you can gather them in the order that works best for you, there is no right way, there is no wrong way, there is only your way.

I am using Prophets–Angels–Shepherds–Magi.

If you would like to listen to this instead, you can do so here 

    Because this follows the natural way of things

     You are your own prophet, you inherently know how to love yourself, how to love what you do and how to love others. Marianne Williamson shares this quite brilliantly in her book A Return To Love. Now you can’t return to love if you didn’t originate from love. I know this concept can be daunting if you believe you were conceived from other than loving circumstances. Love is what you were born with, fear is what you have been taught. I’m going to refer back to Soul Star Chakra again, you are in touch with your divine being, it is a connection with your human self, and you will also know that this is perfect for this time of year.

    You also know that love is everywhere, it can be found in everything tangible and intangible, it is all the big and small things in every second of every day. It is the wrapper around hope, peace and joy, it is the wrapper around your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual bank accounts. It is the wrapper around your health goal, career goal and life goal. Love is everything. 

    Angels shine their light in the darkness, showing you what love is to be reconnected with, what you think is loving but isn’t any longer and needs to be released, and what love needs to be created anew.

    The light shows you what love is possible for you when your light returns, after the shortest day. You have these few weeks in the darkest part of the year to shine your light in all your nooks, crannies, and crevices to gather the information that you will use soon.

    The Shepherds were terrified of the angels, you could be terrified of acknowledging your potential for love, this is natural, as discussed in the Soul Star Chakra, because it can be confronting, shining a light on such a massive area as love can be scary indeed. Which brings you to the Magi.

    The Magi, known as the wise men who came from the east, brought gifts for the newborn sun, or son. Magi, meaning wisdom, or more accepted at the time, astrologers and magicians, completes the natural way of the gathering, yes you may be scared of what love you have gathered and what love is possible, your wisdom knows you will be okay. 

    You know that the possibility of love is present in every second of every day.

    You know that the Magi brought gold, frankincense and myrrh, and you know these have healing properties, you can use your wisdom to heal where love has not been present and to allow love to flourish once again.

    The man-made way of things doesn’t share with you the natural way of experiencing love, …

    … well it does until we are aged around seven, and this is a different conversation. 

    And although love is what you were born with, the man-made way is to ensure that fear is what you have been taught. Many studies deal with the principle that love and fear cannot coexist in the same space, and you fit in, are productive and controllable if you are taught fear.

    The man-made way of things would rather you be productive than loving, there is safety for the community in being productive, of fitting in, of being controllable, the man-made way doesn’t allow for you to be productive AND loving.

    And if you are loving, in the man-made way of things this is not enough, love is conditional.

    If you love me you’d … insert condition of choice, and similarly

    If you love me you wouldn’t …, again insert condition of choice

    You may have heard these phrases casually without any consideration of the potential harm they can inflict to being used specifically in a knowingly abusive situation.

    The man-made way we are taught to love is that love has to be perfect. 

    Because ‘love is everything’ is maybe too big a subject to teach, you are taught everything EXCEPT love, as if it does not exist. Instead of teaching you about love, you are taught to be institutionalised, raise your hand if you wish to speak, say please Miss and Yes Sir, to only go to the bathroom at designated times of day, how to behave in restaurants and other situations, to not express your boredom or joy or cause a commotion. 

    You create an idealised version of yourself based on those physically around you and those not. Maybe those around you can teach you about love, maybe they cannot. The ones who are not physically around you, the pop idols of your time, may well be pop stars with their perfect images and Instagram ready lifestyles, this is simply a man-made money machine that influences your idealised self with no reference to love.

    You will decide how you will present yourself to the world, what mask you will wear to get a job, to keep a job, you may wear a mask to attract your partner, you work towards the idealisation of romantic love, as depicted around you as perfect, from Hollywood movies to billboard advertising for perfume and jewellery and sandals holidays, and yes I would love a sandals holiday too 😊 

    I am NOT saying you have been taught badly, lots of things you have been taught are for your safety and will be fascinating and encompassing for you. Plus your parents, and their parents and each generation that went before them can only teach what they know, and if they were not taught about love, they cannot teach it to you. 

    I AM saying that when you know better you do better, which you will, and yet the man-made way of things is to continue to leave love out of any curriculum and leave a void that fear can easily fill.

    The good news is that there are some steps for you …

    … to gather the information you need to celebrate the return of the sun S U N, and the return of your light that shines within you, let’s gather your LOVE.

    There are three first steps 😂 so in no particular order

    It is natural in this part of this process to feel uncomfortable exploring everything that is love, it can feel like Pandora’s box, and ironically the last thing left in Pandora’s box was Hope, so if this is you, know that you have come full circle. Also if you feel so uncomfortable you do nothing, find a professional you can talk to so that you can explore love at little at a time in a safe place. 

    It’s natural to be uncomfortable

    Love is everywhere, so you can jump right in, list three things you immediately know you love, or list all the things you love around you, that you can see, that you can touch, that you can smell, that you can hear and that you can taste.

    Start your everywhere list.

    Love is a doing word, it’s a verb. It’s not enough to say I love, as an example, this must be backed up with loving actions, this does not make it conditional, it makes it congruent. If I were to say to my partner ‘I love you’ and then treat him as I would a stranger, or somebody I don’t love, would be incongruent and the relationship would not last very long at all. Because love is everywhere the love for a partner is different to the love of mankind or community.

    I learned this many years, maybe early 2000’s and I printed out this quote and kept it in a daybook, lest I forget:

    ‘Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.’ Ursula K. Le Guin

    Love is a doing word

    Then as previously for Hope, Peace, and Joy, decide if you will use the NET, No Extra Time method, the making specific time method or a combination of the two.

    Start to make your list. 😊 

    Google dictionary defines LOVE, amongst other things, as

    an intense feeling of deep affection

    This is a similar definition to joy, you in your wisdom know the difference between the two

    • In what ways do you inherently know how to love yourself?
    • In what ways do you love what you do?
    • How do you easily and naturally love others?
    • What brings you feelings of love?
    • What brings you deep affection?
    • What big things do you love?
    • What teeny-tiny things do you love?  

    • How do you already create love for yourself?
    • How could you create more love for yourself?
    • How do you currently share your love with others?
    • How could you share your love with others?

    • What do you NOT love?
    • What does not bring you deep affection?
    • What can you let go of?  

    • In what other ways would love be like for you?
    • What would it look like?
    • Sound like?
    • Feel like?
    • Smell like?
    • Taste like? 

    Gather all of your thoughts to these questions and your own and, 

    • Simply list them
    • Do not limit yourself
    • Do not censor yourself.
    • What brings you love can be the big obvious things for you
    • What brings you love can be tiny things, that you almost overlook when gathering
    • Your love may come to you from your head, 
    • From your heart,
    • From your stomach, 
    • From an experience, 

    From seeing how other people experience love, you may think oh yes please I’d like some of that for me too.

    Don’t limit your list.

    As an aside, there can be many layers to this exercise, from self-trust, self-talk, how you feel when you gather your love and add them to your collection, this can be the topic for a future podcast if it is of interest to you let me know in the comments, for now, you are simply gathering your love, enjoy it. ~ yes, the steps for love are almost the same as the steps for hope, and peace, as they probably will also be for next week.

    Have fun with the process.

    If you are not familiar, or comfortable with, the word LOVE you can also list all the things that would bring you affection, emotion, fondness, and tenderness.

    Expand your LOVE list.

    Then you can begin to think about love a little further afield, what do think would bring love for your;

    • partner, spouse, significant other?
    • children
    • parents
    • community
    • village, town or city,
    • county
    • country
    • continent
    • global family?

    Use your imagination to cover love for everybody, in every situation possible.

    Know of course that you are not responsible for creating love for everybody, you are simply gathering, this is all that is asked of you, no need to get ahead, no need to beat yourself up for all of the things that are still on your list after maybe many listings, you are simply to have fun gathering items for your list.

    Don’t overthink this, it is not a test, it does not have to be perfect it simply needs to be done 😊 

    My wish for you this gathering season is that …

    My wish for you this gathering season is that you sit with Love, maybe over a cup of tea, or a glass of wine. Maybe speak about Love with your family and friends. Maybe just let Love accompany you on your daily activities so you get to know each other well. 

    Because taking the time to gather everything you need now, over these dark weeks, yes in addition to all of the preparations for Yule and Christmas, means that you will soon be ready to put what you need together in a way that works for you.

    And before I close this season of advent, I’ll leave you with the quote from Marianne Williamson, that is often credited to Nelson Mandela, and feel free to change the word God to a word that works for you ❤️ 

    Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

    Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”

    I wish you every success.

    Love Karen xx 

    11 + 11 =

    Your Power is the combination of the Natural and Man-made way of things that works for you

    You cannot make an educated and informed decision without all the information, otherwise, you may find you have created yourself a brilliant ladder that has been placed against the wrong wall.

    Whatever it is for you, I wish you every success 💛

    Love, Karen xx